Showing posts with label custody tip. Show all posts
Showing posts with label custody tip. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

DAILY CUSTODY TIP: Conduct a child safety audit before taking your custody case to court.

Devin, Hunter and Emilio were three boys living in Michigan who caught the attention of public authorities because of their unsafe living conditions. Back in 2007, when authorities investigated the living arrangements, they found that the boys’ mother had been a victim of domestic violence when the children were present. Emilio, an infant, did not have a crib and instead slept on a child’s play couch that was turned into a mattress. Investigators founds that the cushions around the couch were unsafe because the "child could roll into the crack" between the cushions and suffocate. Eventually, in the case of In re Schaeffer, the Court of Appeals of Michigan took the children away from their mother.

The case of Devin, Hunter and Emilio is not unique. In fact, there are many cases in which child custody and parental rights revolve around the safety of the environment in which the kids are living, sleeping, eating and playing. Is your home safe? Is the other parent’s home safe? To avoid any adverse consequences based on a safety issue, you should conduct a safety audit of your household. Perform your own investigation of the kids’ bedrooms, playrooms, toys and blankets, car seats, and other areas. Make sure there are no dangerous or recalled children’s toys in the house. Make sure furniture, doors, electrical outlets and other common problem areas are safe for children. Ask yourself whether there are any social circumstances in the house (for example, a teenager with a drug problem) that might pose a safety threat to younger children.

Performing a safety audit is a good idea, regardless of whether a child custody dispute is pending. But it is even more important if you’re likely to be cross-examined on the issues of health, safety and welfare of the child. In fact, by safeguarding your home against potential risks, you can testify confidently that you can provide the best environment for the child.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Keep records and receipts of all extraordinary purchases

How many times have you heard a non-custodial parent try to slither out of paying child support by claiming he bought the children a new pair of sneakers or he paid for their soccer uniforms? Such special purchases are not the same as child support, and you can’t get credit for giving gifts or paying for the "extras" that come along.

However, you can strengthen your position in a child custody case by keeping good records of the "extras" which you pay for. Whether you’re the custodial parent or the non-custodial parent, the making of extraordinary purchases for the children is evidence of your continuing support and dedication to your children’s best interests. A rare gesture won’t add up to much, but a pattern of "going the extra mile" can have a favorable effect in custody court. This may include, for example, buying the children new clothing at the start of the school year, paying membership fees for team sports and clubs, paying for sport uniforms and gear, renting musical instruments, or sponsoring a school trip or a camp outing,

Maintaining records is crucial. Keep a log of all special purchases you make. Keep a register of all of your receipts too. Especially if you’re the non-custodial parent, and if you’re paying child support on time, then keeping such records will demonstrate that you treat the job of parenting as being more important than a single court order. Should there be a contested custody motion down the road, it would be helpful to state to the court: "Not only have I paid all of the child support ordered by this Court, I have also paid for six all-day shopping sprees with the children over the last two years, to buy them clothes throughout the year; I’ve paid for the soccer team and the trumpet lessons – with no contribution from their mother. My receipts, totalling $2,800, are available for the court’s review."